When I first became a dad I can remember thinking to myself “How on earth am I going to look after my child when I can’t even cook dinner.” It’s terrifying, but it passes.
One of the unfortunate parts of my daughters birth was that I wasn’t there, I actually got sent home from the hospital and was told my partner wouldn’t give birth. Well she did…on the toilet.
I missed out on her coming in to the world and I was understandably gutted. After having Oliver, our second, I knew I’d missed out on the massive bonding opportunity at birth and with my partner breastfeeding Amy, I didn’t have a lot of opportunities for daddy-daughter time until she was older.
I do think that this aspect of fatherhood can be massively overlooked as although we’re petrified, we still care. As much as society tells us to all be equal I do think there is a tendency for most parents to revert into Mum/Dad roles and this, I think, can be hard for dads, I know it was for me.
Couple that with a Statutory Paternity leave of 2 weeks maximum, you can see why being a bread-winning Dad can feel a bit pressured straight from the get go, giving you less time to be the kind of Dad you want to be.
Thanks to Chris Green for this guest blog. Please feel free to share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below.