The last time I had a newborn was 10 years ago. Now I know 2007 was hardly the dark ages but there was nowhere near the volume of information out there than there is now.
The internet has had a whole decade to build up blogs and forums and comments and not just from professionals but actual mums. The internet has given everyone with access to it - a voice.
Now don’t get me wrong - this can be hugely beneficial! To hear from other mums going through what you’re going through can be massively reassuring. I’ve lost count of how many ‘middle of the night google searches’ I’ve done - throughout my pregnancy and in these first two months on Poppy’s life! Im pretty sure that won’t stop for a while either.
And this great but.... there’s soooo much conflicting advice out there that even a seasoned parent would end up confused (I am that seasoned parent!!) let alone a new parent.
Even the strongest parental intuition/instincts have a little wobble when you read a blog written with such gusto and quite frankly borderline aggression!
You start to question yourself, your parenting style, your baby, heck your whole blummin life when you read these articles, posts or comments written by ‘perfect parents.’
Here’s the thing though - and I have honestly only really just realised this (hence this blog!) there is....wait for it... NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT PARENT! Sorry for the shouty capitals! I wrote it with a smile not a frown. Because it’s a revelation and as soon as I realised this it made me do a little sigh of relief!
You could say - "Don’t google search then." Well 1) yeah right, like that’s gonna happen! And 2) it can be super helpful but what I now realise is that I don’t need to read these and start questioning everything I’ve ever done - I can read it and have some choice with what to do with the info:
Here’s what I won’t be doing anymore:
It's only natural to question yourself as a parent, after all it is the hardest and most important job you'll ever have. But don't be hard on yourself because I'm sure you're doing your absolute best. Remember...